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Thoughts and Perspectives to Shift your Thinking from Ordinary to Extraordinary

Yahoo!! I am Depressed! – Wait What?

Yahoo!! I am Depressed! – Wait What?

“Yahoo! I am depressed!”  is a thought I had well after I had been feeling super down for a while. It took me having to experience a whole lot of feels for me to realize my sadness was actually a gift.

What we don’t realize is that depression can sometimes be an amazing gift.  I am not talking about a diagnosed ongoing mental condition. I am talking about moving through the world when all of a sudden sadness hits you like a ton of bricks and the next thing you know you are plastered to the couch with blankets and wine sobbing as if you could cure the California drought with your tears. If only. The latter happened to me.

But here is what happened right before, see if you can guess what may have added to my emotional demise:

  • Viewing sleep as a waste of time, I took no more than 4 hours a night.
  • Every time I got thirsty my mind erased the fact that water existed and only coffee could fit in my cup.
  • I stopped taking vitamins.
  • I did the same things every day.
  • I saw exercise as a threat to my couch and forbid myself to contemplate more than a 20-minutes of yoga.

I’ve been here before. I’ll be there again. It’s a human thing. But what happened, as a result, was that each and every heavy moment became unbearable and slowly but surely I started losing perspective. I also had a ton of old sadness inside and it was time to come out.  So after I sobbed off and on for about a week, one day it was over. I was done. I really was.

Then I realized I was ready for a new normal. I think the fact that I wasn’t taking care of myself, opened the door to some old lurking sadness and it came out like a tear exodus.  And you know what it was great because I was able to clear space.  I always tell my daughter that tears clean your heart, but even I forgot that.

After I had cleared enough space to move in the Eiffel tower what happened next?

  • My next steps
  • Clarity
  • New ideas
  • New perspectives
  • I grew!

Does a snake cry when it sheds its skin? We do not know, but we know it becomes a new version of itself. I can imagine that is not a comfortable process. Nor can it be for any being. The same way we shed layers of ourselves through embracing the sadness and authentically getting real about what is happening in our lives  – our tears help us to shed the what is limiting our growth.

And if I view my life as fertile soil my tears watered it and grew a new version of myself that was ready to be born.

So here is my suggestion. Don’t wait to dehydrate yourself, don’t become a professional sleep-deprived zombie, find a way to recognize that where there is sadness there is a part of you longing for growth.  Emotional and experiences live inside of our cells, we literally have to release them.  When you are feeling the volatile energy taking hold, go into it and honor it.  Embrace the dark to release the light.

I have always said that the human body can only take on so many experiences before it explodes. We have to connect and release so we can make room for the new.  Have you been feeling sad, or like you desperately need to unwind? Chances are you need to detach and release.

If you are looking for some help on doing this:

Rent a sad movie and just start the tear train moving or put on your favorite melancholic playlist and grab a pen and start to write without restriction.  Dive as deep into your feeling as you can. There is something very powerful waiting for you on the other side.

You can also check out The Creative Jumpstart which begins with a wonderful meditation aimed at releasing what you no longer need energetically. And the 21 Day Meditation includes a release for the sadness in your hearts.  They are wonderful ways to get started.

Whatever you do, remember you are worth gold. Honor each and every part of you, especially your feelings.

Big Hug!

Elizabeth

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

 

How to Stay Inspired

How to Stay Inspired

How to Stay Inspired

I came back from an amazing trip to California feeling extremely inspired! The sunshine and ocean were a balm to my thoughts and an elixir to my winter.

My wander through the redwood forest was nothing less than total replenishment.  I gazed upwards at prehistoric trees and felt alive and nurtured by nature.

Back in my winterland, I had been experiencing some major up-hill battles in my personal life. This trip to California took me out of my everyday surroundings and gave me the aliveness needed to create some long lasting perspective shifts, clarity and figure out some action steps. I was recharged!

When I returned to the Midwest, I soon I found myself in my old world habits and routines.  The feeling of excitement and anticipation was fading fast and I could feel it. The great ideas I wanted to implement began to take second-place to an older energy.  All my victorious clarity and zeal began to dim in the light of an environment I had grown too familiar with.

But my 51 percent was still in the new energy and I was determined to stay there.

Determination is a powerful tool, and when used correctly, can move mountains. Especially energetic ones.

I decided to take some immediate action steps to anchor in my new energy. To keep the feeling of my new desires fresh and alive I did the following:

  • I made a huge sign and hung it in my kitchen where I would see it every day. I took the ticket I had from my trip, taped it to my sign and drew a big red star it. That paper on my wall was a physical reminder of an energetic memory.  I put it near an area where I habitually cooked or cleaned to counteract the density of habit.
  • I dedicated a color to remind me of that energy shift and declared it out loud. Every time I saw the color red I would be reminded of a moment on my trip to California when I felt most clear and confident.
  • I put on a red thread around my wrist to keep me in view of my dreams.

These markers made the difference between staying stuck or moving forward. I moved very forward.

It is wonderful to feel totally alive and inspired by a new experience, thought or idea.  Yet it can be all too easy lose sight of its importance when we return to our “normal”.

External environments hold meaning for us. And when we change internally we must not allow our environments to hold us back from becoming a new version of ourselves.

This can especially be true with our New Year Resolutions. To create new ways of being in the world, we have to create new habits and actions.  If you find yourself fresh off of a new experience and want to keep it alive it is worth surrounding yourself reminders of the experience.  But how. Here are a few ways to keep the momentum alive.

  • Set up a visual anchors in your home or office (like a poster)
  • Write a letter to yourself telling yourself all the great ideas you have and how inspired you are by this new thought or experience. Post it to yourself and when it arrives you will be able to reconnect with the energy. (Plus it is always nice getting real mail!)
  • Set reminders on your phone to pop up daily with the new thought.
  • Dedicate a color to the feeling or new energy you want to bring in.
  • Or simply write a few post it notes with an affirmations of the experience and post somewhere you will see them every day.

Surround yourself with reminders of the new energy you are bringing in. It is super easy to maintain the consistency of the old, bringing in the new will take practice and attention to it. But stay strong because once you do it will feel so worth it!

If you feel like you would like some help with moving any resistance and bringing in new energy or creating an artistic way to anchor in your new energy – work with me. Schedule a call with me to get started.

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

 

Trust

Trust

After a long meditation process followed by a wonderful painting session, I felt I had really begun to release a lot of outdated ideas in my head. But within a day or two some weeds of thought showed up again. I had to keep reminding myself that things were not how they appeared it was my outdated perspective on the situation that determined its meaning.

Almost like a test. I chose to release so much of the past but was I committed to that idea? If I was really going to let go then how would my approach to the challenges of today be?
Could I look with a fresh perspective?

How was I going to trust a fresh perspective that has no prior experience? I had been utilizing my “how things had been” viewpoint and not my “how can things become” viewpoint.

Sometimes old energy likes to hang on and see if we are really committed to breaking up with it.

The trick to releasing is to begin to have some really big faith in who you are truly and to trust that what is coming next comes from a part of you that you may not have connected with for a while. Your muse. Your deep inner knowing.

We have to make a commitment to trusting ourselves. Because future steps are either built based on what has happened in the past or on a decision to trust the part of you that is wise and limitless and can create a truly great possibilities for us if we listen to it.

By setting the intention to make conscious choices that are aligned with what you truly want the “unknown” can become a landscape of trust.

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

Filling your Cup

Filling your Cup

I am holding a warm cup of lemon tea listening to a podcast. This moment was a long time in the making.

Today I realized in all of my doing I was forgetting to do one very crucial thing: Self-nurture.

It is a bit cold today. That gives me an opportunity to bundle up and get a bit closer to..well, me. Later, a cup of warm lemon tea found me and the warmth of the cup fills my hand and makes me feel so cozy. The funny thing is that I am sitting at a desk. The podcast is in my headphones and the experience surrounding me would otherwise not be a nurturing setting. But it is because I have decided it to be. By pausing and grounding inside of the moment and really connecting with it I am creating an alignment within me.

This sense of inner alignment is a gift to ourselves. It is grounding and puts us into ownership of our own space.

This weekend will be filled with a lot of calls for you to be out of your space, try to remember to take a few minutes and create that connection to what you are doing when you are doing it. That connection with the present moment is that connection with yourself.

Find ways to give yourself the gift of realignment. You deserve it today and always.

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

From Polarity to Possibility

From Polarity to Possibility

You can create something new.

We get a little limited in our visions for ourselves because sometimes we based them off of what others have or what we do not have. From those two limited spaces we are confining our visions for ourselves.

The polarity comes when we place a sense of earned deserve-ability (what we are allowed to have) based on some yet unattained version of our future self.

“When I do _________ I can finally have __________.”

With this limited allowance we cut ourselves off from a vast net of possibilities.

It is the difference between believing our choices are between black or white or gray to realizing our choices are full spectrum rainbow (and the infinite color combinations there).

So how do we connect to the infinite space of what is possible for us?

There are some great tricks to expanding your vision for yourself.

Imagination is really the key. Playing the what if game with yourself and after each what if question you pause for a few minutes and felt the experience in your body is a great place to start.

For example if you wanted to leave your desk job but weren’t sure where to go from there you may want to ask;

What if I worked outside?
What if I worked on a boat?
What if I was a pilot ?
What if I never had to work again and did what I wanted when I wanted where I wanted?

After each question take the time to feel what it would be like to have that? Does this feel good? Does this idea bring me joy? Mmm…ok let’s explore something close to this…

There is no harm to anyone when you play in your imagination. But by doing so you can start to open up areas of yourself that are unexplored and ready to be born.

When you begin to connect with experiences that appeal to you own them.

There is no “allowed to have”. It is, rather, “I am claiming my right to have”. You are the captain of your life and can steer this baby any way you want to. You have the full right to a life that feels good to you.

What are some what if questions you have now?

For me I would have to start by asking:
What if this conversation was in person and happening right now in the Caribbean on a beach?… Oh that felt good!

Releasing the Old

Releasing the Old

Letting go of outdated energy is not often voluntary and when the system gets overwhelmed with what we need to let go if it rebels. Dis-ease in the body, sadness in the mind, over worry or cloudy thinking are all symptoms of holding on to too old much energy.

Think of old computers and when the hard drive is overwhelmed with outdated software programs. It freezes. It gets stuck. It starts acting very strange. That is the same with us. When we are running outdated programs (energy) our hardware (mind/body) gets stuck.

But unlike computers, we have the luxury of being in charge and releasing what is no longer working.

There are so many ways to do this. You can guess which ones we will be working with.

What are some areas/things /people/situations you are ready to release?

For me, a lot of the shadows that came up were about my “doing-ness” in the outer world vs my nurturing of my inner world. I had to take notice and give in to myself. Naps were the antidote. Just resting without a quest of any kind. Was so luxurious. ❤️

Guess what? After you release all that expired energy you have room in your life for something new!!