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Meditation Saved My Life!

Meditation Saved My Life!

I am pretty sure meditation saved my life this week.

I had signed up for a Reiki session. It was my first. I have heard wonderful things about it. But never experienced it myself.

Unfortunately the practitioner called me to cancel the session due to a family emergency.  I was bummed. It was a Sunday and I had already arranged the childcare.. I was also bummed because a recent compendium of challenges that showed up really had me feeling quite mixed up energetically.   I wasn’t lining up with myself and I could feel it.

So there I was at Noon on a Sunday with time to myself and not sure what to do with it. My first thought, “paint”. My second thought. “clean”. My third thought, “no no no please don’t clean!!” Then then I looked at this space on my floor and decided I was good enough at meditation and energy work, I’ll give myself a reiki session.

Without knowing what a reiki session would entail, I knew I could move my own energy with intention and could allow myself the gift of cleaning up my own energy. I could give myself an experience that was bigger than sitting in meditation. I could give myself a healing session. So I did.

First I prepared a space.

A feather bed on the floor with blankets and pillows.  I added some hemi-sync music from Spotify into my headphones.  

I then set the intention.

The night before I had a dream where I was trying to move through a room but could not because there was this large lump on the floor blocking me.  I knew when I woke that I had a blockage in my energy that needed to go. So I set the intention to move out old blockages and stagnant energy.

I laid down, put the headphones on and allowed the experience to happen.  It was wonderful, beautiful and very surprising.

(If you want to know exactly what I did during this self directed energy healing, email me.)

I saw images that showed me what I needed to release and I really moved energy within me. I even cried. A lot. This was working.  I spent about 45 minutes in this space and when I got up I felt like I had a fresh pair of eyes. And I felt so sooooo good.

I decided to follow whatever urges my body asked for that day and the first one was eating a huge HUGE salad. In my mind’s eye I  could see the red cabbage, spinach, kale, cilantro, parsley, dill, capers, black olives, tomatoes, sweet peppers, sweet potatoes, carrots and avocados. That was exactly what I was going to have.  Except I had only a few of those ingredients in my home. A trip to the shop was next!

I drove to the shop down the road and felt so much more at peace and relaxed than I normally do. When I get into my car I am usually calm, but I tend to move from point a to b without much observation or need to overly pause. I am in a car to get there fast. Lets go.  

But not this time. I was was so grounded. My body felt so at peace. I was more patient than usual and when bikers drove in front of me I was very mindful of giving them extra caution and space.  Felt nice.

At the intersection, as we waited for the lights to go from red to green, the biker in front of me signaled that she was going left.  As I was going left, I set out to follow her easily when the light turned green. But something happened. I had this feeling of just pause and care. I wanted to wait just one extra second and make sure she made her turn fully before I began. Then just as I began to put my foot on the accelerator another car came speeding towards me coming up on my drivers side. This driver was running the red light and going about 60 miles per hour in a 25 miles an hour zone to do so. The light had already turned. She must have made this decision when the light had turned yellow about a few hundred feet back causing her to speed up insanely.  If I had not paused, not felt grounded not felt calm and centered, I would not be writing this email to you today. I would have been in a very powerful car accident and where the other driver would have smashed into me completely totaling my car. Not to mention what kind of domino effect would have occurred with the other cars. I do not know if I would have survived.  I honestly do not.

But what I do know is that if I had not been relaxed that moment. In my own space and connected to the world around me I would have zoomed ahead as I usually do without even thinking of stopping. And because I had taken the time to give myself what I needed. To ground my energy and release what I was carrying. That my taking the time to care about myself resulted in me caring more for those around me (the bikers in front of me) and for that reason I am alive today.

This was a powerful reminder of just how significant having our own spaced cleaned out and owned fully by us really is. What  difference it makes to be grounded.

If you are feeling less than “yourself” these days, feeling out of your own space, feeling less than in touch with your own joy, remember that it is most likely a result of carrying way too much energy on you.  And by some grounding and self care work you can begin to remove the layers of “the everything else” and get back to the beautiful gold that is you.

I have a free Creative Jump Start which starts with a beautiful meditation to release energy.

You can sign up for that here if you would like. http://artwithintention.com/creativejumpstart/

And as always, if you want to reach out and connect with me in person, I am always here.

elizabeth@elizabethtuckwell.com

Much love,

Elizabeth

 

Bloom

Bloom

What would bloom in your garden today?

If we think of our thoughts as seeds and our feelings around those thoughts as fertilizer, what would bloom in your life today?

I have this personal theory that everything shows up about three days later.  I think that the thoughts we think show up in our world as experiences in about three days.  The cake binge I experience on Tuesday will show up on my hips by Saturday. The exercise I start on Wednesday, as a result of said cake binge on Tuesday. will help to balance out the hip expansion by Sunday.  I have no scientific evidence backing this up, but it does allow for some personal leeway and accountability.

If I catch my thoughts spiraling in a direction of doom, worry or anxiety (which has been their historical behavior) I can begin to mollify their impact by realizing I have time before they show up in my world as things.  Slow down their momentum and begin to reverse them.

When you are in the same position and you are not liking where your thought machine is going take a deep breath and remind yourself, you have the reigns on this. Then do the following:

Ask yourself – “What will my next thought be?”

(Thank you Mr. Eckhart Tolle – I got that from the Power of Now)   – The empty space that comes from that question is quite profound. It is a way to stop your thought momentum in its tracks.

Then ask yourself how do I want to feel right now?

If your answer is relief or joy or free or happy start to make of list of three things that bring you to those feeling states.   Just three.  Be specific so you can go into the feeling of a memory you can call on to soothe you.

For me I could easily write:

Sometimes we think that by worrying we are committing to a problem that needs solving.  I haven’t read every history book on file, but I am pretty sure there is not one documented case of worrying something better.

Having these three items on a piece of paper in front of me constantly shifts my focus.  These are great moments.  I want more of these.

I start cultivating thoughts I prefer. I plant seeds I want to grow.

So knowing this, and it being the spring time, let’s all begin to cultivate thoughts for what we really do what to bloom into what we desire.

What would be blooming for you today? What do you want to bloom for you in three days?

What seeds are you planting in the garden of your mind?  Let’s make them beautiful flowers.  You deserve nothing less.

 

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She provides creative coaching to remove old energy and gain clarity. You can learn more about working with her here: http://artwithintention.com/one-one/   She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

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The Illusion of Control

The Illusion of Control

I recently had an amazing creative coaching call with a woman. There were so many “Aha moments” that I knew I had to share them with you.

After going through one of two meditations during the call, the first image that this woman had seen was a bird flying over a rainbow. She said was not entirely sure where that image was coming from. By the end of the call we both understood the meaning behind that vision.

This lovely woman had recently been feeling quite burnt out by work overwhelm.  When she had tried to control each metaphorical fire that had come up she was often left more and more depleted. This was an ongoing situation lasting over 18 months.

She had gone into her venture with enthusiasm but when challenges began to come up they seemed to never end and her enthusiasm soon morphed into emotional fatigue.

Then something magical happened.  She made an epic decision. She had had enough. She was done living inside of this situation. She decided to accept it as it was.  Perhaps it was never going to get any better. Maybe it was always going to need an endless amount of problem solving. Maybe she was always going to be tied to this situation. Fine. She was ready to accept that this situation had a life force outside of her and it was not up to her to try to control it anymore. She would be there in person but not in spirit.

She decided that instead of trying to control the outcome of this situation, she was going to start increasing her own personal joy.  She got a puppy.

Her love of her new puppy took over all the other feelings in her world. She knew that her dog was only a puppy for a short time and she did not want to miss out on that precious timeframe by worrying about her work.  The value of her relationship with her puppy became more important than the trauma of all things that weren’t working for her.  While still allowing her business to move forward, she divested her emotional interest in its shortcomings and instead began to invest her emotions in her new puppy and having fun with it while it was still young.

And, guess what happened?

All of her work-related problems began to take care of themselves.  One by one, everything started working out.   After a horrible 18 months of non-stop devastation with her work, she was now facing an oasis of peace.

So let’s unpack this a bit.

She decided that she was going to accept the situation the way it was instead of fighting to control it. 

I often hear the word accept and think that it denotes giving in. But I don’t believe it is. When you accept something you are declaring that your emotional boundaries have been drawn. There is now an official border on what you will allow to affect you energetically.

The concept of boundaries applies to all relationships we have. Not just partners but also jobs, conversations, interactions with people during your day. Essentially it is a decision about your own energy space and how much you will allow it to be affected by your external circumstances

Rarely do we decide on boundaries before we embark on a new experience or relationship. But doing so in advance of the experience really declares your ownership about your own energy and can set you up for feelings of empowerment vs. depletion, especially when everything begins to go south.

She may not have created boundaries at the beginning of her new work relationship, but she definitely was declaring them now. She was no longer going to allow for anything to affect her negatively.

She decided to relinquish her control over the situation.

Control is another fully loaded word.  In this case I would rather use the term emotional engagement.

When we are trying to control the outcome of a situation we are emotionally engaged in that experience. We have a direct investment in how the result will make us feel. When that feeling is not met we want to further control it until that feeling is met.  We can’t depend on the situation to give us the feels we are looking for because it can be an endless carrot that we are forever chasing. And each time the feelings we desire are not met, we sink deeper into disappointment.

What was so wonderful about this woman is that she realized she had erroneously been looking to this situation to bring her joy and relief.  And once she understood that this was not going to happen, she took her emotional engagement out of the situation and put it elsewhere. In this case, a new puppy!  And we all know the definition of puppy is Pure Joy!

It is no accident that once she freed herself from the emotional entanglement, things started working. It is easy to feel the need to wrangle something to the ground with the desire to control it. I think we have been lead to believe that if a situation needs to be solved, it needs to be done so as a hands on process.  We are not taught that by disengaging emotionally, declaring your energetic boundaries with the situation, and deciding to focus on your own joy is a profound way to truly affect a situation.

So what was the meaning of the vision she had after our initial mediation together? The rainbow had come after her storm had finally passed. She was the bird spreading her wings and finally flying free.

You may be wondering at this point what we discussed on the call. Her next steps. She was finally in a position to be starting over. We cleared stagnant energy from her prior experiences and began playing in the field of her imagination. That was fun!

Just in case you are in a situation where you feel tied to a condition that is not working and you are looking for some emotional relief, I have included a link (below) to one of my meditations. This one is about grounding your energy and removing what is not working in your life.  Taking even a few minutes to ground and center can greatly help shift your energy closer to joy.    Enjoy.

Click this link for your free Energy Grounding Meditation

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She provides creative coaching to remove old energy and gain clarity. You can learn more about working with her here: http://artwithintention.com/one-one/ She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

Is your receiver working?

Is your receiver working?

Recently I was sitting with someone I admire and they were reviewing some work I had done for them.  As they spoke I found myself crossing my legs, tapping my foot and playing uncomfortably with my pen.  I also found myself struggling to make eye contact, which rarely happens.

The words kept flowing from her. Comment after comment about the work that I had done.

This was kind of difficult to take in.

Why?

It was a waterfall of continuous compliments.  Literally – non-stop compliments about the work I had done.

After the first one I smiled and said “Oh thank you so much.”  After the second, third and … I was beginning to get uncomfortable.

I tried to deflect  – saying that we all were amazing together It wasn’t just me.

I tried to return – saying that it is such a gift to work with someone so amazing.

But after a while, I had nothing left. It was just awkward. I had to accept these amazing words all directed towards me. For me being me.

Why on earth was this so difficult?  If she has sat there and told me all of the ways I could improve, I would have listened intently, taken notes and worked on my self-improvement model. But this was not like that at all.  There was nothing to improve upon. Omg.

I think we all have an under developed “I’m F’n Amazing”  muscle and an over developed “I’m not worthy” muscle.

This really needs to shift.

In the book, The Power of Receiving, Amanda Owen writes, “While the Giver archetype is celebrated in our culture, the Receiver is almost wholly unknown. The result? Busyness is a virtue. “  So true. Cultivating a life of doing and doing for others leads us down a path that thwarts our ability to receive. This ability to receive shows up in crazy places. It can be gifts, good health, relaxing and even receiving the gift of true love.

Owen writes, “The only possible match for someone who doesn’t know how to receive is someone who doesn’t know how to give.” That statement alone speaks volumes and begs us to ask ourselves, what value is there in not being someone who won’t’ open up to receiving?

There is no martyrdom nor are there any awards in being an over-giver. There is just an imbalance.

All of life depends on a flow of give and receive to properly flourish and thrive and we are no exception.

It is time to open the doors and let your all your joys in and receive them with honor! You deserve it!

So….in closing…If you want to praise this post, feel free to email me at Elizabeth@elizabethtuckwell.com – I am open to receive!

Big Hug Amazing you!

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

 

 

The Lens of Love

The Lens of Love

Seeing with Love’s Lenses

A woman I know looked at her phone and shook her head. She walked over to me and said look at this text message my husband just sent me.

It was a list of things to remember before her big trip.

I looked at it and said, “Oh look at all the ways he is telling you he loves you.”

Her expression totally changed. “Ohhh”, she said, “I was looking at this and thinking God look how he is micro managing me.   But you totally changed that for me.” A few weeks later she came up to me and showed me a text on her phone again and this time she said, “look at all the ways my husband is telling me he loves me.”  We both laughed!

How much better does it feel to look at something and feel the love from it than to feel constricted by it?

Love’s lenses are an incredible and freeing way to view the world around you. We are all in fact wearing some form of lenses that we view our world from and the vantage point is make or break.  No matter what lenses you chose to view your life from, you will always be right.  That is why it can be difficult to be in a relationship with someone (lover, partner, friend, colleague, parent, etc) where you do not share the same type of lenses. Especially if one person is heavily invested in their perspective.

Recently a friend called me to express her need for some help. She said she felt isolated and believed that there were not a lot of people in her life to help her.  She asked me to reach out and see if support was available for her. What I found was an outpouring of love and people wanting so much to help her. There was so much love available for her. But in her limited perspective she was only able to see some of it. How much better did she feel when the world of love that was surrounding her actually was able to be viewed because her lenses had shifted from isolation to that of love?

When we are only looking at life through one set of lenses, we are looking for life to appear a certain way. That is a bit rigid and our self-imposed lenses will also allow you to only see what is in line with that viewpoint.

What is important here is to allow for the possibilities of other viewpoints to come into play. It makes life’s playground a lot bigger and possibilities for personal expansion much greater. One perspective is one path and there is only one way to go. Opening up to other perspectives, lenses and interpretations of an event creates growth.

So ask yourself this question the next time you are feeling especially constricted by a situation, “If I looked at this through the lenses of love, what would I see?” I am willing to bet the farm that what you will see will be a lot more beautiful than anything before. Give it a try!

Big Hug!

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

 

 

 

Use Your Imagination for Good!

Use Your Imagination for Good!

Your imagination is such a powerful part of you. In fact, if you spell the
word imagine out loud it sounds like ” I am a genie” because you are
and it is.

Every once in a while my 7-year-old starts on a worry route. She will
have watched or heard something that tipped her mind in the wrong direction, like a
scary part of a movie, or a bad dream, and she will start to ask a
series of “what if” questions all designed to calm (or cement) her
fears.

“What if it is real?”
“What if that really happens”
“What if something like that happens to me?”

I comfort her, ensure her that it was all pretend. I tell her that she is safe.

And then I tell her that she is just using her imagination the wrong
way. She has the power to imagine anything. Don’t choose what feels
horrible. Choose what feels good. Those what if questions are gatekeepers to your imagination.

It is the essence of worry. Worry is simply using your imagination
the wrong way. Using it to bring you closer to your fears versus towards your joy. When we go the route of worry we are using our “What If” muscles to create something we don’t want instead of what we do want.

Two sides of the coin, both just as powerful.

Growing up we are trained to dismiss this power of our imagination as a frivolous
part of our make-up. But it is actually an indispensable part of our
lives.  If we can begin to see anything in our mind, and do it often
enough. we will see that our minds will start to bring that to us.

There is a part of our brains designed for this. It is the Reticular
Activating System. It is a part of the brain that filters all of the
information coming at you. It only takes in what you have deemed most
important by your habitual mental setup. The thoughts you think over and over and over.

Your consistent application of your imagination.

Holding a thought in your mind and imagining that thought coming
true is holding a space in your life for something to come in.

Whether it is good or not so good. Staying aware and in ownership of this is learning to master what we intentionally place in our lives versus what shows up by default.

We are easy creatures of habit and this also includes our thoughts and what we allow as the focus of our attention. Checking our phones every
3 minutes, waking up and staring at a screen, binging on Netflix, video games –  all gives our attention away and eludes our ability to our focus. This all takes away from us intentionally using our imagination.

Picture in your mind having something that you really want right now.

Questions:

  • How much time do you give to this one idea throughout the day?
  • How much time do you spend imagining what it would be like to have this in your life?
  • How much of your day do you outsource your attention to the things around you?

Take a moment to expand on what you are really wanting? Feel how what you want to feel when you have it. Now imagine that desire hovering over you like a light above your head.

Now imagine it descending into your whole being. Feel the warmth and gentle confidence it is bringing to you. Hold this feeling for as long as you can. Then let it go.

You have just used your imagination to bring you what you do want.

Doing this intentionally and on repeat will start to bring more of what you really want to you. It will start to tip that RAS in your favor.

When you begin to go down the path of worry, realize you are simply using your imagination to bring you what you don’t want. You can stop it in its tracks and turn the vision around. Imagine the opposite. That everything IS working. That it is becoming easier and easier. Imagine that situation simply floating away from you resolving itself. Win Win for all.  You just used your imagination to bring you what you do want.

You have this power that totally listens to you. It is impartial. What your use your imagination for it will bring to you. So let’s start intentionally using it for good. Even more than good – let’s start using it for the Best of the Best right now.

And we all want that, right?

Happy intentional creating! Love you!

Would love to know your thoughts/ feelings / ideas? Xoxox

Want more info on the Reticular Activating System?:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reticular_formation#Ascending_reticular_activating_system

https://renewingallthings.com/spiritual-health/reticular-activating-system-you-see-what-you-believe/

https://medium.com/desk-of-van-schneider/if-you-want-it-you-might-get-it-the-reticular-activating-system-explained-761b6ac14e53

 

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

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