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Thoughts and Perspectives to Shift your Thinking from Ordinary to Extraordinary

Keeping it Real

Keeping things very real:

This week was a doozy. The beginning of the week had my little one sick, the end of the week I had food poising, then my external hard drive died and I lost 5 years’ worth of work and memories.   My podcast, No Worries Wednesdays, was not produced this week because of it, my apologies to my audience. It will be up and running again next week.   But I had a choice, completely freak out and wonder why all things felt doomtastic or realize that sometimes there is just a reset button that happens in life, whether we are ready for it or not.

My food poising caused me to not eat for a few days and during those days I felt a sense of clarity and grounded-ness that I had not felt in ages.  I had to question what was I eating? Why is it that I felt so clear on such an empty stomach?  It has made me look at the amount of sugar I intake, my caffeine consumption, and a few other things. I have all but ceased the sugar and cut out coffee. (tea still rocks) but I feel better.  I would not have gotten to this moment today without that awful Saturday morning.

The work, the art, the archives of memories.  Well that still hurts. But what to do?  Realize that the best memories are the ones in my heart. I have enough scatterings of my images on social media to recover some items and for the rest, well a clean slate and a fresh start is what’s next on the menu.

It feels good to have this perspective. It’s taken me ages to leave the omgwhatisgoingtohappenworry behind. But the practice of creating art and meditation help clear away the illusions and keep me focused on what is actually important.  My child is healthy and happy, my artwork is a gift to create, my Watercolor Poetry class is going so well good, my upcoming workshop is going to be amazing, I am healthy and happy and surrounded by amazing people, like you.  That is what is real!

I’ll have more of that. The rest is just accessory.

So what is next for you? If you had a total reset button pressed, would you be ok with it?  What matters most to you and what for you is just accessory?

Are you clear about what matters most to you?

If you would like to engage is a fun class designed to help you do just that and you are in Chicago, sign up for my new workshop Watercolor Vision Board.  Spend two fun hours creating the vision for the life you want and creating beauty in your world. You may just create some memories that last a lifetime. The kind that stay in your heart.

Learn more details here.

Big Love!

Elizabeth

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She provides creative coaching to remove old energy and gain clarity. You can learn more about working with her here: http://artwithintention.com/one-one/   She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

Meditation Saved My Life!

Meditation Saved My Life!

I am pretty sure meditation saved my life this week.

I had signed up for a Reiki session. It was my first. I have heard wonderful things about it. But never experienced it myself.

Unfortunately the practitioner called me to cancel the session due to a family emergency.  I was bummed. It was a Sunday and I had already arranged the childcare.. I was also bummed because a recent compendium of challenges that showed up really had me feeling quite mixed up energetically.   I wasn’t lining up with myself and I could feel it.

So there I was at Noon on a Sunday with time to myself and not sure what to do with it. My first thought, “paint”. My second thought. “clean”. My third thought, “no no no please don’t clean!!” Then then I looked at this space on my floor and decided I was good enough at meditation and energy work, I’ll give myself a reiki session.

Without knowing what a reiki session would entail, I knew I could move my own energy with intention and could allow myself the gift of cleaning up my own energy. I could give myself an experience that was bigger than sitting in meditation. I could give myself a healing session. So I did.

First I prepared a space.

A feather bed on the floor with blankets and pillows.  I added some hemi-sync music from Spotify into my headphones.  

I then set the intention.

The night before I had a dream where I was trying to move through a room but could not because there was this large lump on the floor blocking me.  I knew when I woke that I had a blockage in my energy that needed to go. So I set the intention to move out old blockages and stagnant energy.

I laid down, put the headphones on and allowed the experience to happen.  It was wonderful, beautiful and very surprising.

(If you want to know exactly what I did during this self directed energy healing, email me.)

I saw images that showed me what I needed to release and I really moved energy within me. I even cried. A lot. This was working.  I spent about 45 minutes in this space and when I got up I felt like I had a fresh pair of eyes. And I felt so sooooo good.

I decided to follow whatever urges my body asked for that day and the first one was eating a huge HUGE salad. In my mind’s eye I  could see the red cabbage, spinach, kale, cilantro, parsley, dill, capers, black olives, tomatoes, sweet peppers, sweet potatoes, carrots and avocados. That was exactly what I was going to have.  Except I had only a few of those ingredients in my home. A trip to the shop was next!

I drove to the shop down the road and felt so much more at peace and relaxed than I normally do. When I get into my car I am usually calm, but I tend to move from point a to b without much observation or need to overly pause. I am in a car to get there fast. Lets go.  

But not this time. I was was so grounded. My body felt so at peace. I was more patient than usual and when bikers drove in front of me I was very mindful of giving them extra caution and space.  Felt nice.

At the intersection, as we waited for the lights to go from red to green, the biker in front of me signaled that she was going left.  As I was going left, I set out to follow her easily when the light turned green. But something happened. I had this feeling of just pause and care. I wanted to wait just one extra second and make sure she made her turn fully before I began. Then just as I began to put my foot on the accelerator another car came speeding towards me coming up on my drivers side. This driver was running the red light and going about 60 miles per hour in a 25 miles an hour zone to do so. The light had already turned. She must have made this decision when the light had turned yellow about a few hundred feet back causing her to speed up insanely.  If I had not paused, not felt grounded not felt calm and centered, I would not be writing this email to you today. I would have been in a very powerful car accident and where the other driver would have smashed into me completely totaling my car. Not to mention what kind of domino effect would have occurred with the other cars. I do not know if I would have survived.  I honestly do not.

But what I do know is that if I had not been relaxed that moment. In my own space and connected to the world around me I would have zoomed ahead as I usually do without even thinking of stopping. And because I had taken the time to give myself what I needed. To ground my energy and release what I was carrying. That my taking the time to care about myself resulted in me caring more for those around me (the bikers in front of me) and for that reason I am alive today.

This was a powerful reminder of just how significant having our own spaced cleaned out and owned fully by us really is. What  difference it makes to be grounded.

If you are feeling less than “yourself” these days, feeling out of your own space, feeling less than in touch with your own joy, remember that it is most likely a result of carrying way too much energy on you.  And by some grounding and self care work you can begin to remove the layers of “the everything else” and get back to the beautiful gold that is you.

I have a free Creative Jump Start which starts with a beautiful meditation to release energy.

You can sign up for that here if you would like. http://artwithintention.com/creativejumpstart/

And as always, if you want to reach out and connect with me in person, I am always here.

elizabeth@elizabethtuckwell.com

Much love,

Elizabeth

 

Bloom

Bloom

What would bloom in your garden today?

If we think of our thoughts as seeds and our feelings around those thoughts as fertilizer, what would bloom in your life today?

I have this personal theory that everything shows up about three days later.  I think that the thoughts we think show up in our world as experiences in about three days.  The cake binge I experience on Tuesday will show up on my hips by Saturday. The exercise I start on Wednesday, as a result of said cake binge on Tuesday. will help to balance out the hip expansion by Sunday.  I have no scientific evidence backing this up, but it does allow for some personal leeway and accountability.

If I catch my thoughts spiraling in a direction of doom, worry or anxiety (which has been their historical behavior) I can begin to mollify their impact by realizing I have time before they show up in my world as things.  Slow down their momentum and begin to reverse them.

When you are in the same position and you are not liking where your thought machine is going take a deep breath and remind yourself, you have the reigns on this. Then do the following:

Ask yourself – “What will my next thought be?”

(Thank you Mr. Eckhart Tolle – I got that from the Power of Now)   – The empty space that comes from that question is quite profound. It is a way to stop your thought momentum in its tracks.

Then ask yourself how do I want to feel right now?

If your answer is relief or joy or free or happy start to make of list of three things that bring you to those feeling states.   Just three.  Be specific so you can go into the feeling of a memory you can call on to soothe you.

For me I could easily write:

Sometimes we think that by worrying we are committing to a problem that needs solving.  I haven’t read every history book on file, but I am pretty sure there is not one documented case of worrying something better.

Having these three items on a piece of paper in front of me constantly shifts my focus.  These are great moments.  I want more of these.

I start cultivating thoughts I prefer. I plant seeds I want to grow.

So knowing this, and it being the spring time, let’s all begin to cultivate thoughts for what we really do what to bloom into what we desire.

What would be blooming for you today? What do you want to bloom for you in three days?

What seeds are you planting in the garden of your mind?  Let’s make them beautiful flowers.  You deserve nothing less.

 

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She provides creative coaching to remove old energy and gain clarity. You can learn more about working with her here: http://artwithintention.com/one-one/   She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

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The Illusion of Control

The Illusion of Control

I recently had an amazing creative coaching call with a woman. There were so many “Aha moments” that I knew I had to share them with you.

After going through one of two meditations during the call, the first image that this woman had seen was a bird flying over a rainbow. She said was not entirely sure where that image was coming from. By the end of the call we both understood the meaning behind that vision.

This lovely woman had recently been feeling quite burnt out by work overwhelm.  When she had tried to control each metaphorical fire that had come up she was often left more and more depleted. This was an ongoing situation lasting over 18 months.

She had gone into her venture with enthusiasm but when challenges began to come up they seemed to never end and her enthusiasm soon morphed into emotional fatigue.

Then something magical happened.  She made an epic decision. She had had enough. She was done living inside of this situation. She decided to accept it as it was.  Perhaps it was never going to get any better. Maybe it was always going to need an endless amount of problem solving. Maybe she was always going to be tied to this situation. Fine. She was ready to accept that this situation had a life force outside of her and it was not up to her to try to control it anymore. She would be there in person but not in spirit.

She decided that instead of trying to control the outcome of this situation, she was going to start increasing her own personal joy.  She got a puppy.

Her love of her new puppy took over all the other feelings in her world. She knew that her dog was only a puppy for a short time and she did not want to miss out on that precious timeframe by worrying about her work.  The value of her relationship with her puppy became more important than the trauma of all things that weren’t working for her.  While still allowing her business to move forward, she divested her emotional interest in its shortcomings and instead began to invest her emotions in her new puppy and having fun with it while it was still young.

And, guess what happened?

All of her work-related problems began to take care of themselves.  One by one, everything started working out.   After a horrible 18 months of non-stop devastation with her work, she was now facing an oasis of peace.

So let’s unpack this a bit.

She decided that she was going to accept the situation the way it was instead of fighting to control it. 

I often hear the word accept and think that it denotes giving in. But I don’t believe it is. When you accept something you are declaring that your emotional boundaries have been drawn. There is now an official border on what you will allow to affect you energetically.

The concept of boundaries applies to all relationships we have. Not just partners but also jobs, conversations, interactions with people during your day. Essentially it is a decision about your own energy space and how much you will allow it to be affected by your external circumstances

Rarely do we decide on boundaries before we embark on a new experience or relationship. But doing so in advance of the experience really declares your ownership about your own energy and can set you up for feelings of empowerment vs. depletion, especially when everything begins to go south.

She may not have created boundaries at the beginning of her new work relationship, but she definitely was declaring them now. She was no longer going to allow for anything to affect her negatively.

She decided to relinquish her control over the situation.

Control is another fully loaded word.  In this case I would rather use the term emotional engagement.

When we are trying to control the outcome of a situation we are emotionally engaged in that experience. We have a direct investment in how the result will make us feel. When that feeling is not met we want to further control it until that feeling is met.  We can’t depend on the situation to give us the feels we are looking for because it can be an endless carrot that we are forever chasing. And each time the feelings we desire are not met, we sink deeper into disappointment.

What was so wonderful about this woman is that she realized she had erroneously been looking to this situation to bring her joy and relief.  And once she understood that this was not going to happen, she took her emotional engagement out of the situation and put it elsewhere. In this case, a new puppy!  And we all know the definition of puppy is Pure Joy!

It is no accident that once she freed herself from the emotional entanglement, things started working. It is easy to feel the need to wrangle something to the ground with the desire to control it. I think we have been lead to believe that if a situation needs to be solved, it needs to be done so as a hands on process.  We are not taught that by disengaging emotionally, declaring your energetic boundaries with the situation, and deciding to focus on your own joy is a profound way to truly affect a situation.

So what was the meaning of the vision she had after our initial mediation together? The rainbow had come after her storm had finally passed. She was the bird spreading her wings and finally flying free.

You may be wondering at this point what we discussed on the call. Her next steps. She was finally in a position to be starting over. We cleared stagnant energy from her prior experiences and began playing in the field of her imagination. That was fun!

Just in case you are in a situation where you feel tied to a condition that is not working and you are looking for some emotional relief, I have included a link (below) to one of my meditations. This one is about grounding your energy and removing what is not working in your life.  Taking even a few minutes to ground and center can greatly help shift your energy closer to joy.    Enjoy.

Click this link for your free Energy Grounding Meditation

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She provides creative coaching to remove old energy and gain clarity. You can learn more about working with her here: http://artwithintention.com/one-one/ She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

Is your receiver working?

Is your receiver working?

Recently I was sitting with someone I admire and they were reviewing some work I had done for them.  As they spoke I found myself crossing my legs, tapping my foot and playing uncomfortably with my pen.  I also found myself struggling to make eye contact, which rarely happens.

The words kept flowing from her. Comment after comment about the work that I had done.

This was kind of difficult to take in.

Why?

It was a waterfall of continuous compliments.  Literally – non-stop compliments about the work I had done.

After the first one I smiled and said “Oh thank you so much.”  After the second, third and … I was beginning to get uncomfortable.

I tried to deflect  – saying that we all were amazing together It wasn’t just me.

I tried to return – saying that it is such a gift to work with someone so amazing.

But after a while, I had nothing left. It was just awkward. I had to accept these amazing words all directed towards me. For me being me.

Why on earth was this so difficult?  If she has sat there and told me all of the ways I could improve, I would have listened intently, taken notes and worked on my self-improvement model. But this was not like that at all.  There was nothing to improve upon. Omg.

I think we all have an under developed “I’m F’n Amazing”  muscle and an over developed “I’m not worthy” muscle.

This really needs to shift.

In the book, The Power of Receiving, Amanda Owen writes, “While the Giver archetype is celebrated in our culture, the Receiver is almost wholly unknown. The result? Busyness is a virtue. “  So true. Cultivating a life of doing and doing for others leads us down a path that thwarts our ability to receive. This ability to receive shows up in crazy places. It can be gifts, good health, relaxing and even receiving the gift of true love.

Owen writes, “The only possible match for someone who doesn’t know how to receive is someone who doesn’t know how to give.” That statement alone speaks volumes and begs us to ask ourselves, what value is there in not being someone who won’t’ open up to receiving?

There is no martyrdom nor are there any awards in being an over-giver. There is just an imbalance.

All of life depends on a flow of give and receive to properly flourish and thrive and we are no exception.

It is time to open the doors and let your all your joys in and receive them with honor! You deserve it!

So….in closing…If you want to praise this post, feel free to email me at Elizabeth@elizabethtuckwell.com – I am open to receive!

Big Hug Amazing you!

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.

 

 

The Lens of Love

The Lens of Love

Seeing with Love’s Lenses

A woman I know looked at her phone and shook her head. She walked over to me and said look at this text message my husband just sent me.

It was a list of things to remember before her big trip.

I looked at it and said, “Oh look at all the ways he is telling you he loves you.”

Her expression totally changed. “Ohhh”, she said, “I was looking at this and thinking God look how he is micro managing me.   But you totally changed that for me.” A few weeks later she came up to me and showed me a text on her phone again and this time she said, “look at all the ways my husband is telling me he loves me.”  We both laughed!

How much better does it feel to look at something and feel the love from it than to feel constricted by it?

Love’s lenses are an incredible and freeing way to view the world around you. We are all in fact wearing some form of lenses that we view our world from and the vantage point is make or break.  No matter what lenses you chose to view your life from, you will always be right.  That is why it can be difficult to be in a relationship with someone (lover, partner, friend, colleague, parent, etc) where you do not share the same type of lenses. Especially if one person is heavily invested in their perspective.

Recently a friend called me to express her need for some help. She said she felt isolated and believed that there were not a lot of people in her life to help her.  She asked me to reach out and see if support was available for her. What I found was an outpouring of love and people wanting so much to help her. There was so much love available for her. But in her limited perspective she was only able to see some of it. How much better did she feel when the world of love that was surrounding her actually was able to be viewed because her lenses had shifted from isolation to that of love?

When we are only looking at life through one set of lenses, we are looking for life to appear a certain way. That is a bit rigid and our self-imposed lenses will also allow you to only see what is in line with that viewpoint.

What is important here is to allow for the possibilities of other viewpoints to come into play. It makes life’s playground a lot bigger and possibilities for personal expansion much greater. One perspective is one path and there is only one way to go. Opening up to other perspectives, lenses and interpretations of an event creates growth.

So ask yourself this question the next time you are feeling especially constricted by a situation, “If I looked at this through the lenses of love, what would I see?” I am willing to bet the farm that what you will see will be a lot more beautiful than anything before. Give it a try!

Big Hug!

Elizabeth Tuckwell is the founder of Art With Intention a site devoted to creative expression and personal peace. She is also an accomplished Abstract Artist and her work can be viewed at Elizabethtuckwell.com.